Full of expectation you register on a single page and then it comes – the question about the profile text.
“Should I write something personal about myself? What do I like about myself? What I’m interested in?”
Exactly – details about you and exactly why someone should write to you.
“Great – I want to get to know great people here and not write a biography about myself!”
It shouldn’t be a biography, it should reveal the reader more about you and encourage him or her to write to you. The profile text gives the reader the opportunity to elicit more than a “Hi, how are you?” He gives him the opportunity to speak to you about special things from your profile text and give clues as to what interests you and what is not.
For this reason I have decided to put an old but very effective profile text of mine online. It is open, direct and says exactly what I wanted and what I didn’t want back then.
“Hello and welcome to my profile!
I am interested in dialogues (not to be confused with monologues), open-minded personalities and interesting questions where the answers still need to be discussed.
What I like:
– enjoy your meal
– intelligent women
– slim women
– To do sports
– travel to other countries
– sleep in
– my job
– humor and laughter
– good films
– seduce and be seduced
– to flirt
– Women who have a goal
What I do not like:
– uptight people
– stupid people
– People shaped by German television
– too less sleep
– no sex
– unkempt people
– ignorance and selfishness
– moral constraints imposed by society
– Sentences like “Hi, how are you?”
– Constant chatter, refugees from reality
I think this little list should give you enough clues for a great chat.
Given the occasion, I would like to point out that I am not a solo entertainer. That means you should bring a certain eloquence with you when you write to me. Thank you :)”
This text took me 10 minutes. 10 minutes, which paid off inasmuch as women sought contact with me without me having to write to them.
This structure and profile text is only an example. But it just gives the reader the opportunity to look and know what I like and what not. What the person can talk to me about and what may bored me.
In particular, this part “What I like” and “What I don’t like” has a great effect – it replaces the matching. Matching means “comparison” – which can be related to interests and likes / dislikes. Many single portals advertise their matching, but apart from that of Match.com I have not yet recognized a proper system behind it. Most of the ‘love suggestions’ on the well-known singles platforms are worth less than the energy required to click to close the browser.
Of course, it depends on what you’re after. If you want a relationship you should be honest – there is nothing worse than meeting and then facing a completely different person. If I just want to flirt online, I can of course slip into a role that suits me. But you should always keep in mind – the word disappointment comes from the deception and this is carried out when you pretend to be someone else and then you are not at a meeting. The person opposite will be disappointed and everything was ruined.
I recommend everyone to take 5-10 minutes for the profile text. Check your spelling – e.g. Write in Word and then copy it into the profile text field – and leave the cat in the village. Always try to put yourself in the position of the reader. Do you want to come across as aloof, arrogant, lovable or playful? Do you show that you have a sense of humor or are you shy of people and are looking for someone like you? Because every weakness and fear also exists in the opposite sex and is accepted.